Friday, April 15, 2016

Do we seek Validation...?

If you don't already know, or ever thought about this...humans are goal seeking organisms. We are always aiming to achieve something, complete a task, etc. Even if you are a humble monk, you are still aiming toward a goal, possibly enlightenment or simply a compassionate being.

We are also family oriented, this is why we are almost always in the midst of other humans. We call these people family, friends, associates, lovers, children, etc. If we are separated from our "family" for an extended period of time, it is proven to cause severe neural change, hallucinations, depression, thoughts of suicide, and other negative effects. Even if one is depressed sometimes, while around other people, once one enters a new group of people or environment, we feel better.

On a lower level, we develop what we refer to as an 'EGO'. A common acronym for this abbreviation is "Edging God Out". The EGO is what causes impulse defence or aggressive behavior against others. This invisible internal self/voice, if not controlled, will blind one from experiencing life in a peaceful and satisfied manner. There will be no ceiling to the list of "wants" a person desires. This person will not be content in any way. The EGO rarely allows one to listen and analyze. The most common response is aggressiveness to anything one feels is an attacking action or statement toward the character of that person. No compassion is possible with this level of clouded judgement.

The EGO is developed throughout the childhood and teen years of an individual, largely from parents and the surroundings. Once the EGO is corrupted, it is succeptible to deception on all levels. One will fight to defend a belief, idea, material belongings and anything one deems a "possession". With no way to entertain new ideas or a different outlook on life, the only way for a person affected by this disease is to be curious to seek answers on their own or see the change in others around them. A person like this can only change on their own terms, if they so desire to be better or change their state of thinking.

On a more subtle level, the EGO requires validation. Example, if you do something, and someone benefits from this action, and you do not get a "thank you", or a payment or reward of some kind, the EGO is unsatisfied. There will be a conflict when nothing is returned to the pleasure centers of the brain. This is where a feeling of "hate" or negative emotions are developed. The temperature rises, and the senses are alert to build up energy for a temporary battle if necessary.

Unknowingly to most of the earth's population, the EGO is actually a disease which does not cause biological damage "per-se", however it does cause significant neural changes in the brain, which in turn affects behavior. This in turn causes confusion, poverty, desperation, inability to think of anything long term, inability to truly love, inability to truly experience compassion and the inability to learn life lessons. 

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