A while ago, I had a conversation with a very disorganized and spontaneous woman. She seemed to think that life is alot more fun when she is just a "get up and go" person. Someone who makes plans on the go, and always have 2-5 backup plans if plan "A" fails. I was very curious as to why someone would behave in such a chaotic manner toward daily, monthly and yearly life. It just did not compute on my end, as I am a very organized person and see things only on that spectrum.
She explained that she used to be somewhat organized and her "friends" often told her to loosen up and be more accomodating. She found it hard but once she let go, she found that things worked out for the better more times than not in the end. So I asked how often did her plans worked, and she said about 30% of the time. So I asked whether it was good odds to keep such a rudimentary routine concerning her well being and acceptance of her friends. She said that with plan b-c-d-e, multiple plans can come in handy when people cancel at the last minute, she forgets to do something, is late, and so forth. So I asked if she meant that she has an excuse for anything that might come up or just to keep busy if her plans got cancelled, and she essentially said yes.
After such a conversation, I realize that some of us more intelligent people take our knowledge and insight for granted and usually do not share it with others who are less inclined. Rightfully so, because most people without a certain level of thinking (intelligence), usually do not want to hear that someone is smarter than them, or look into why an answer or suggestion might help them without being overly defensive.
The person essentially asked me the same questions they were asked before they changed into a spontaneously energized aimless drone. I explained that my views on life and my future are decisions I make myself, as a result of analysis and reanalysis of information, experience, insight and foresight of what has been and what I look forward to. I was fortunate enough to have been into computers since 1999, merely a year after I came to New York. I was so curious that I learned things on my own, that still help me to this day in my career, and also able to teach others in my profession some of these self taught techniques. I confirmed, that if you do not have a solid goal, something to look forward to, then you will NEVER reach anywhere. You will become someone "chasing ghosts".
Our minds are made up in such a way that we need a "full circle" of information in order to make sense of anything. That is why 95% of movies are based on a chronological or reversed-chronological order of events, making a story. Something with a beginning and an end. Something with a subject, body and ending like a letter. Without this basic connection, we get bored, annoyed, frustrated, and essentially unmotivated to do many things.
When we set goals, we allow the mind to work in such a way, that it aligns our life around getting to that goal. If you tell your mind you want to be on a road to success, thats exactly what you will get, a road to success always ahead of you, never reaching it. If you tell your mind that you want to start a business in 1 year, and you keep that in focus as you go through your days, weeks, months and eventually the year, you will see how many things come into perspective and opportunities that presents themselves in front of you for the choosing. Just like a JigSaw Puzzle, you must choose the right parts to complete the picture.
