The Truth is The Only Constant!

From my own experience, insight and understanding of life and the different connecting points that we call our "days" and "Years", it is no secret that the truth is absolute. Just as we know that an orange can never be blue, unless genetically altered, in which case, it is now a questionable fruit. The truth cannot be anything else, it is what it is, a constant within a changing realm.

When we are young, most of us come across the fact that we can tell a "lie" in order to substitute the satisfaction of a good outcome from a cornered situation, such as the situation of taking candy from a store, and eating it before getting caught, and say you never took it. The evidence will be on your tongue, as all candies usually have a color that is left on your tongue for a few hours. As we evolve, and we increasingly become more aware of situations, our mind is more equip to handle more complex "lies". However, this creates an unseen problem for most. As the mind grows, it retains a memory bank, regardless of whether the experience is true or a lie. For a person who is a Chronic Liar, the truth and the "Lie" become intermingled and soon become a working part of the person's brain. No matter how simple a situation is, if that person's mind thinks there is any threat at all, of an uncomfortable outcome, a lie is immediately created to patch that outcome so the odds of a favorable outcome is now increased. The problem is that now there is a corrupted memory bank that serves as a reference point for future analysis of situations, environments, conversations and memory.

We all heard of the saying at some point "You must bend when it is young", and although it slips past many of us, it is a very profound statement. Because if this "negative energy" continues throughout a young person's life into adulthood, that person will not be someone that many people will trust, or be relied on for anything. And in turn, will not have trustworthy friends to gain any additional knowledge or support from.

Why does this matter? Well, if you need some advice, or help, or support in a time of crisis, in need of help making a decision, need insight from a person not affected by a situation you are in, it will be very hard. Often times, just like giving someone a paper you have just written, to look it over, they will find errors that you cannot see, because you are "in" the paper and cannot look from outside unless you put that paper down and re-read it some days later, and even then, you will miss some errors.

Be true to yourself, and make strong your decisions, for no matter how far you run, or how deep you hide, there are lessons in life that we cannot avoid, we must learn them and advance to another stage in our personal evolution. When we face a situation such as punishment or embarrassment, it is a lesson in itself that if not learned, will repeat itself as many times as necessary until you "get it" and evolve. So the next time you think about lying to avoid an argument, avoid an uncomfortable outcome or decision, just remember that it is only for the better of your entire being, that you face your fears, adversaries and situations in order to become a better, stronger, person, spirit and essence of humanity.

Leon F. B.

Why is it hard to let go?

As you no doubt have figured out, human interactions are rather fragile. They extend to so much more than merely talking, seeing, touching and feelings invoked inside. Just about every person values interaction from some form of like being. It's self evident even in society as a whole. For example, as a form of punishment, we isolate law-breakers to serve "Time" away from the population as a whole. Ever wonder what purpose that serves?

Our relationship with the people in our homes, around us, the ones we form friendships with, the ones we don't like too much, and even the ones we do not yet now, play a very important role. Specifically, I will only address the question "Why is it hard to let go."

Parents, Close-Friends, Girlfriends, Boyfriends, Husbands, Wives...what do relationships all have in common?

When we first "mesh" with someone, we evaluate their posture, tone of voice, as well as what exactly we like about them. If someone were to ask you "what do you like about your best friend?", it would take you little time to formulate an elaborate answer to this question. However, if someone were to ask, "What if your best friend were to move to another country and you lost contact with them, how would you feel?" You would probably consider this question cruel, evil, despicable, or just something horrible to think about. Yet, it is a possible reality, but not one often prepared for.

Every close relationship has an invisible energy attracting field that goes widely unnoticed. This field is built through interaction, trust and gratitude. When these three elements are combined, they form an intertwining spiritual bond. The bond is not easily severed/broken, for it is meant to last a lifetime. This bond makes deep rooting memories, historical pointers, and may even drive one to insanity.

When a close-relationship ends, no matter what a person may tell the outside world, they feel an unpleasant feeling inside, that can last for months, or even years. This change in reality often bring people to bitterness, stalking, crying, self-hatred, or even suicide. One may feel a void inside that is seemingly unmendable, a feeling of being un-earthed from a comfort zone of happiness to a desolate place. The depressed and abandoned feeling outweighs the good memories almost all the time, unless one person felt a heavy burden is lifted from them.

For this reason, breakups are hard. This is the reason it is so hard to let go. A spiritual bond is not easily broken, and if you have ever found yourself back with an EX no matter how much you try, or still loving your parents no matter how bad they have treated you, or find yourself moping around in depression after losing a friend, now you know what is pulling at your very spirit.

Hard Times, Road Blocks, Envious Foes, Brick Wall... Why?

There was once a time, when grown ups would tell little children that they can be whatever they want to be. They would say "Anything is possible, just think about it, and you can be the president if you want to." These lessons are often taught by parents believing that schooling and proper upbringing will allow a child to accomplish great achievements in their lifetime, in turn, making the parents proud. But we all know that does not always work out the way our parents hoped.

From young adulthood onward, we face great difficulties, road blocks, and many obstacles in just about any endeavor we choose to embark on. We try to figure out why good things dont last very long, or long enough without further challenges to keep things together. From brain-wrecking school-work, difficulty finding a job, or just someone envious of what you have and try to sabotage your whole operation. We try to define this phenomenon as bad luck, a curse, life is f_cked up, everyone hates me, and the like.

Interestingly, we almost never see a positive side to anything we consider generally negative. Tell me, do you ever think failing a class or losing your job was the best thing for you, or a good thing at all? I believe you answer is a resounding NO!

Well, if your answer is NO, then you may find the information from this point on to be at least a bit useful going forward.

You don't need science to tell you the wind is blowing. We all know that the wind exists and it is invisible. The same way we all know we have faced difficult times in the past and will face challenges in the future. But...why do we need to face challenges? What purpose does it serve? Why can't it all be easy?

We will answer these questions with reality around us. Just like a person who is out of shape and decides to go to the gym, we all must face challenges to be where we want to be. Even if you decide you want to get fat, it takes a certain amount of will power to reach your goal. It is the concrete decisions we make with full confidence and emotional firmness that truly make a difference in our lives. Once you make a definite decision, the universe will begin to reorganize the elements around you to make sure the obstacles you overcome, fully prepares you for your destination.

Now think about a great obstacle in your past, and think about how overcoming that obstacle allowed you to achieve some other goal. If you quit, you will never see the destination you chose. The same way you must do homework, take tests, and a final exam in every grade of school, it is the same way you must overcome the tests (obstacles) that the universe places in your way, so you can be ready for your chosen reward. If you believe within your core that you are cursed, having bad luck, or any other negative connotation, the universe will not discriminate. Energy is energy, it can never be destroyed or created, it can only be used, invoked and harnessed to bring about change. Only you can doom yourself to failure.

So next time you're wondering why someone is hating on you, think about what they're envious of. When you face a roadblock, think about your destination and why you want to get there. When you face confusion and despair, think about clarity and why your lesson will make you happier in the future. The duality of our existence is ever visible, invisibly. Hard times are usually the indicator of the small road left to make your dream a reality.

Its up to you to see, or remain blind to what is inevitably real.